The Hidden Agreement Workshop
Why We Stay Stuck in Old Habits—And How to Break Free
You know what you want to change. You've set the goal, made the plan, promised yourself this time would be different.
Then the old pattern shows up again.
If This Sounds Familiar, You're in the Right Place
The Endless Loop
You've tried willpower. Discipline. Self-help books. Yet here you are, still wondering why it hasn't worked.
The Internal Battle
Part of you desperately wants to change. Another part keeps pulling you back to the familiar pattern.
The Hidden Truth
What if the gap between knowing what you want and actually doing it isn't a character flaw—but a hidden agreement you didn't know you made?
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."— Carl Rogers
What If It's Not About Willpower?
The gap between knowing what you want and actually doing it isn't a character flaw. It's not laziness. It's not lack of motivation.
It's something like an invisible agreement—made long ago to keep you safe, loved, and secure—still running in the background.
And until you understand what that agreement might be protecting, change will continue to feel like a battle.
What You'll Experience in Workshop 1
This experiential workshop invites you to explore the why behind your habits—so change can begin to feel less like a battle and more natural, compassionate, and possible.
Explore Your Inner Conflict
Make sense of what it feels like to be pulled between wanting to change and wanting to stay the same.
Meet Your "Internal Committee"
Notice the different parts of you that all want a say, and explore how they might work together.
Decode Your Hidden Agreements
Try a simple, powerful exercise that can help reveal the positive intention behind a habit.
Open a New Conversation
Experiment with approaching yourself—or a loved one—with curiosity instead of judgment, and see what becomes possible.
Workshop Details
Date
January 24, 2026
Duration
10:30 am - 12:30 pm
2 Hours
Location
James L. McIntyre Centennial Library
50 East St., SSM
Format
In-person
Limited to 12 participants
Investment
$99 + HST
What You'll Receive:
Participant Guidebook
Beautifully designed with reflection spaces and transformative prompts
Discovery Exercises
Uncover the invisible contracts keeping your habits in place
Practical Tools
Micro-agreement builder, cost-benefit matrix, and integration practices
What Participants Are Saying
Dr. Mike Prebeg
Skills In Hand, Chiropractor
"The Internal Committee exercise was a game-changer for my practice. I always wondered why giving patients advice—even when they agreed with it—seemed to make them more resistant. Simrit showed me that telling ourselves (or our patients) what we 'should' do actually backfires. Now I understand why my clients nod along and then don't follow through—they're not being difficult, different parts of them genuinely want opposite things."
Tania Facer
Revive Pilates Studio Owner
"I used to think willpower was the answer until Simrit explained why that approach fails. The workshop helped me see that when clients want to exercise but keep canceling, they're not sabotaging themselves—something deeper is going on. Once I stopped pushing 'just be more disciplined' and started asking what their resistance was protecting, everything changed. My retention rate doubled."
Salima Virani
Owner, Blue Letter Law
"Finally, someone explained why I want to eat healthy AND keep stress-eating at the same time. Simrit taught me this isn't self-sabotage—there's actually a reason this happens. The moment I understood what was really going on and stopped fighting myself, the shame disappeared. I'm making progress for the first time in years."
Johanna Edwards
Seamstress, Frankenstein Movie
"I kept telling myself 'just do it' and getting nowhere. Simrit showed me why that whole self-control approach was making things worse—it was actually triggering the resistance. Learning what my ambivalence was really about changed everything. I finally get why I've been stuck and, more importantly, how to move forward."
Ready to Stop Fighting Yourself?
Join us for Workshop 1: The Hidden Agreement on January 24, 2026. Discover what's been holding the pattern in place—and how to work with yourself instead of against yourself.